Michael the Lover - Part 1

With Michael’s Ascendant in Gemini, he has a talent for variety in personal relationships, and he can enjoy many different kinds of lovers. A stick-in-the-mud partner who likes the same thing every time would be very boring for him. Since he is an inventive lover, he needs a very sensitive partner who can respond to his delicate touch and lively imagination. In fact, imagination is the keyword to his style. Michael has a very inventive mind, but it proceeds in irregular leaps and spurts at times. When he tries to communicate or explain a problem, his mind may run ahead of his lover's understanding.

Michael probably brings many new and original ideas to his lovemaking, some of which may be so imaginative that they are unworkable. He enjoys a partner who can stimulate him intellectually, someone whose mind is quite unique and different from his, who can show him a fresh new way of looking at the world. Michael seeks clarity and truth in a relationship and will value a partner who is both scrupulously honest and able to express feelings with precision and insight. He will probably get the most out of a relationship that has plenty of room for growth, one that does not complete its development or define its direction too precisely or too soon.

Many people in Michael’s age group prefer wide-open, ever-changing relationships that cover a lot of emotional territory. This does not mean that Michael has to continually change his attitude or his partner, but he would probably be happier with an unrestricted, open-ended relationship. Naturally he risks some emotional injury by being so open- handed, but the more scope there is for Michael and his partner, the warmer and more beautiful the relationship will become. Michael has a kind of physical desire that is aroused and turned off quite abruptly and strongly. In general he does better in a loosely structured partnership in which he and his lover have maximum freedom.

Michael’s tastes in love may run to the out-of-the-ordinary, and he can get a great deal of pleasure and reward from unusual kinds of sexual experimentation. Hopefully he found an uninhibited partner who is eager to participate in anything that turns up. Michael usually tries to cover up his natural impatience, but when the dam breaks, it releases a flood of physical passion that takes a lover by storm. There is a very hard inner core to Michael’s style of loving. Although it seems to be very tender, underneath it has a biting, pungent quality. Michael shows a certain meticulousness in lovemaking, such that not a single possibility is missed in a nights play.

Michael is able to feel comfortable with any form of sexual experimentation that he chooses, and he chooses those that have real substance, not just passing whims. It would be good if Michael’s lover lets him choose new styles and techniques, because his judgment is so good about which ones have the most potential. Although Michael does not seem like a sexual adventurer, his style is quite innovative. It is just that his pace is slower; but in time, he will have covered as much ground as many others. Michael has a very original mind, which he uses to dream up creative and sometimes unusual methods of sexual enjoyment.

In addition, Michael has a good sense of judgment concerning which of his fantasies are practical and which should remain in fantasyland. Michael’s environment will encourage this way of thinking to a certain extent, because he is likely to move in a circle of friends who also lean toward the creative and original. Michael can learn much from these people. Love talk and a verbally affectionate lover may be particularly important to Michael. Compliments and sweet nothings whispered in the ear, as well as dialogue during lovemaking, constitute a significant area of sexual enjoyment. Michael would be wise to find a lover who is equally knowledgeable about sex and willing to put that knowledge to good use.

Michael’s partner should be quite communicative and willing to discuss lovemaking with him. This position indicates that Michael has a generous helping of desire and a healthy sexual appetite. His taste runs to all-over-the-body sensuality rather than to localized tastes and he isn’t concerned with impressive accouterments; he just wants pleasure to be readily available. If there is any drawback to this position, it is that Michael demands high standards and will not stand for stinginess or boredom. Michael is very good at letting his partner know about his needs and desires, so he seldom suffers frustration because of inability to communicate what he wants.

Michael also has a good eye for aesthetic proportions, both in his surroundings and in his lover. Michael may be a gifted speaker, or at least he expresses himself in a gracious and charming manner. He is quite open about discussing sex, and he uses all his learning and conceptual abilities to improve his sexual expression. Michael may have found it difficult, particularly when he was young, to be in the right place at the right time sexually. The result of this difficulty could have resulted in a tendency to associate sex with anger or frustration. If properly channeled, this association would have made sexuality very intense when he finally found expression.

Michael may have spent a good deal of time exploring his desires and understanding them in order to have a really fulfilling sex life. Essentially, this could be called the art of sexual self-discipline, which in the long run made Michael a steady and accomplished lover. Mistakes are a part of any learning process, so, hopefully, instead of mourning his errors in love, Michael analyzed and learn from them. Michael’s views about what he wants from a relationship are quite clear. In general, he gets the greatest enjoyment from tried and true methods. This approach makes love a very easy and mellow experience.

Although he may not be that interested in experimentation all the time, Michael will certainly not find it harmful in moderation, and both his lover and his relationship will benefit. It would be a good idea if Michael and his lover planned their experiments together ahead of time, rather than trying them out without warning. Michael expresses his desires quite effectively through his movements and appearance, so that he does not have to use many words to let his lover know his needs. This does not mean that Michael is necessarily the picture of ideal beauty, but rather that he is at ease with his body and can readily and naturally express his desires through it.

Michael would be wise, however, not assume, that others are as easy and clear about their feelings as he is. Michael may be subject to rapidly and sometimes continually changing emotions and desires in love. As a result, he may become quite an accomplished lover and adaptable to a variety of styles, depending upon his partner. However, continual changes may sometimes be a mechanism for not facing emotional needs that need extra work and attention. It may be difficult for Michael to slow down, however, for emotional or sexual repetition can become quite tedious for him.

Michael is likely to chafe at the bit if his partner can't maintain his pace. In matters of the heart, Michael is not likely to waste words, and when he speaks, he addresses the essentials of the situation. Michael might want to approach critical matters very carefully with his partner and unravel the solutions gradually. Michael’s style of loving may be strongly influenced by that of his parents, and he may find it enjoyable and reassuring to repeat many aspects of their relationship. Michael would profit most by investing his energy in a long-range relationship, even if it offers no immediate return. Such a relationship would pay off in depth of emotion, which he will seek when short-lived affairs have had their day.

Michael enjoys easygoing relationships. He usually doesn’t bother with the kind of highly detailed self-analysis that can get in the way of a natural love affair. On the other hand, in a more involved or complex relationship, he may tend to overlook or ignore the real problems that have to be dealt with in detail to keep the affair on an even keel.
Michael’s idea of a good time with his lover is simple and direct - he prefers spontaneous pleasures to complex plans and arrangements, which tend to get in the way of a happy outing or celebration. Michael is likely to place considerable importance on intellectual communication in a relationship. He prefers to have the upper hand intellectually in an affair, but he would be wise to avoid personal power struggles to bring this about.

If Michael’s partner does not agree with him on some matter, he would be wise not to make it a matter of pride to force his opinion on her. Instead, he should respect his lover's thoughts, and if they don't match his, reconsider his own views. Michael values deep, penetrating thought, and he doesn’t usually approach a subject lightly. However, he should take time to enjoy the more frivolous side of love, where pleasure is its own reward and no probing questions are asked. By learning to be more light-hearted, Michael can direct his intellectual and emotional energies better. For Michael, unclear communication can be a real source of irritation, and he may be over demanding of his partner when she doesn't say exactly what is meant or what he wants to hear.

Michael should resist the temptation to argue just to make his feelings known and exercise as much restraint as possible. In the long run, he will have a much clearer view of the truth, and he will see where he and his partner have strayed from it. Practicing restraint will also teach Michael the inadvisability of haste, and he will learn to be far more patient, controlled, and accurate in his speech. Michael can be rather pragmatic about love and not likely to be too demanding of himself or his partner about dreaming up changes in their relationship at times. This kind of steady patience is particularly valuable when the relationship is going through a fallow period when nothing seems to be happening, even though exciting changes are bubbling under the surface.

Michael’s fairly steady hand can deal with a partner who is very creative, if somewhat unsteady. Such a lover would be very good for him, supplying the ideas that he then regulates and polishes. With that combination, Michael’s relationship can have maximum stability and growth while effectively avoiding both extremism and stagnation.
Michael tends to be quite creative and imaginative in love, with a regular flow of ideas. Instead of contradicting his lover concerning the direction of their relationship, Michael attempts to blend and compromise if the two of them are at odds about which way to go.

From time to time Michael may get locked into too much of a routine in lovemaking, and then a break toward the adventurous might be in order - something different enough to be challenging, that neither of them has done before. Michael probably derives great comfort from the security of his most intimate surroundings, his home, and especially his bedroom. Naturally, he will be happiest with a lover who respects these values rather than someone who feels that home is where you hang your hat. However, if carried too far, this tendency can lead Michael to virtually imprison those he loves in a close and restricted atmosphere without freedom to come and go as they wish.

Probably Michael is the partner who is more qualified and interested in maintaining the home he shares with his partner. However, its uses should be decided by both of them. As a rule, Michael’s generation is more demanding and particular about what is required in a relationship than earlier generations have been. However, insisting on so many conditions in a relationship may make it difficult or impossible to fulfill. This can be a particular problem if his personal style is rather relaxed and undemanding. In that case, Michael must learn to attend more carefully to the details of a relationship so that his needs and those of his partner are fulfilled as much as possible.

The intensity of Michael’s personality means that any affair he gets into is also quite intense. Because of this attitude, Michael can virtually dissolve in an affair that is going well, blending with his lover in such a way that the union is more than the sum of your personalities. When everything is going well, this can bring Michael to the very height of sexual fulfillment. But he would do well not to insist that sex at that high level must be the only expression of his love or that it must necessarily happen. Michael would be happy with a lover who can help him enjoy the lighter and more amusing aspects of an affair. Also, such a partner can lead Michael to styles of loving with which he may not be familiar.

Continually exploring new emotional and physical territory in a relationship makes Michael very creative and serves as a basis and motivation for further growth. Indeed, he may look back on how far he has come in small steps, seeing how, without noticing it, he has gradually achieved a great deal of positive transformation. Michael is fortunate in this because he can bring a rather fearful or conservative lover along this path of growth with him and in the end, his relationship will be in a better place without having gone through a lot of tumult.