Michael the Lover - Part 2

Michael expresses his love as much through the surroundings he creates as through physical sexuality. For this reason he will generally take a lover only after the two of them have become fast friends. Michael is much more at ease when he can make love in familiar surroundings that he can control. This may be partly because of some natural insecurity, but it is just as much because for Michael, giving love includes much more than the physical act. Therefore, he would be wise to look for a lover whose idea of a good time is an intimate evening at home rather than someone who likes to paint the town red.

Of all the Sun signs, Virgo is the most adept at the care and feeding of a lover. Michael will go to great lengths to find out exactly what pleases his partner and spend a lot of effort to provide it. He also puts a high value on a lover who is aware of what pleases him. Michael must, however, make a particular attempt to let his lover know just what makes him happy, because other people are not likely to be as observant as he is.
Michael is more comfortable with a long-term affair that gives him plenty of time to structure the relationship.

Giving and receiving gifts, particularly hand-made presents, may be a very potent expression of love for Michael. But he should not be disappointed if his lover does not appreciate his gifts as much as he does. Instead, he might want to find out the channel of communication that his partner treasures most and direct his love energies there.
Michael is probably quite realistic about what he can and cannot expect from a relationship. In judging an affair, he doesn’t let imaginary standards outweigh reality.
Of course, his expectations in love may be quite demanding, but he will not walk into a relationship in which he knows they cannot be met.

Grappling with difficult human situations may challenge or alter Michael’s view of life. Therefore, he should try to be supple in his views and reconsider his assumptions from time to time, or place himself in a situation that will test and refine his ideals. Michael tends to be quite a gentle and thoughtful lover at times, and he can easily attune himself to his partner emotionally. Michael may have high expectations of love, and his sexual encounters may not always give him as much as he wants. For this reason, Michael would be happiest with a physically expressive lover who can turn lovemaking into a true art form.

Michael might want to learn to look at sex with some humor as well, for the details of physical love sometimes get fouled up. When that happens, he might as well enjoy it and not worry about his romanticized ideals. Michael has developed a romantic style of loving that transcends the physical and allows him to express sexuality at a highly developed emotional and spiritual level. Neptune is located near the end of the fifth house and is therefore also interpreted in the sixth house.

Michael may find that concentrating on sexual technique is less than rewarding because it tends to separate him from the emotional fulfillment that he seeks. If he leaves the technical direction of love to his partner, his own feelings may flow more easily.
A good lover for Michael would be someone who does not insist on elaborate lovemaking, who can integrate her own skills without interfering with the ease and intensity of affection. At any rate, Michael finds great reward in the care and feeding of his lover, and the more ways they both find to do this, the richer their love life will become.

Michael has a certain tendency to spiritualize love mentally, attributing to a relationship higher and more fated qualities than it actually merits. Michael’s affairs may be very gratifying physically, but there is always an overtone that the involvement is a fulfillment of destiny in some way. This makes a sound and fruitful relationship all the stronger, uniting Michael and his lover with bonds that transcend the physical, which will hold them together when physical problems arise.

Michael may find it hard to distinguish a good relationship from an unsatisfying one, because the feeling of creative spiritual union may blind him to differences that make the affair impossible. In that case, Michael will learn from experience to be more cautious and more discerning before getting involved in a new relationship. Michael is a natural entertainer who can turn any social gathering into a party just by his attitude. He tends to diffuse his feelings of love for his partner and share them with others. Conversely, he draws on the good feelings of others in his crowd to enhance and heighten his love for his partner.

For Michael, love is an experience that is closely linked to comradeship. There may be a close relationship between Michael’s love activity and his external creativity, with one encouraging the other. Michael has considerable talent in the creative arts, and he will certainly surround himself and his lover with beautiful music and gracious surroundings.
Michael does not worry about fixed role-playing within a relationship. On the contrary, he can heighten the interest and be more creative by exchanging a variety of roles with his partner.

Michael’s open approach to new aspects of sexuality is an asset. He insists on being truthful, and he expects the same from his partner. Michael may become involved in a number of relationships and tire quickly of an affair that does not offer continuous stimulation. Although no love relationship can survive an excess of boredom, he would be wise to avoid changing partners just because they enter an emotionally becalmed period. Michael’s creativity is linked to being involved in a worthwhile relationship; but he may be particularly choosy about selecting a partner who can live up to his rigorous internal guidelines.

Michael should remember that much of the beauty of a relationship is in its development. Few lasting affairs start off in full bloom. Michael’s inner desire for an elevated and accomplished affair may lead him into involvement with older or more experienced lovers. In any affair Michael should receive as much as he gives, or he may find that he is being used for his desire to become accomplished in love. As he advanced in age and experience, Michael would want to avoid being too demanding of a younger lover. Patience is a virtue, particularly when dealing with a lover, and he can develop that quality fully.

Michael’s style in a relationship is to be continually in motion, particularly when difficulties arise. When a situation refuses to go away, Michael should rely on his partner to do much of the work. For that he will need a steady, dependable lover. However, he does have a talent for spotting specific causes of a problem and pointing them out.
When difficulties crop up in his relationship, he can look on the bright side and cheer himself and his partner up.

Michael may be attracted to partners who restrict him in some way or who are or appear older than him. Although this may limit his sexual possibilities, in some instances, in others it will stabilize him, if his partner can provide effective guidelines as to what will be most pleasurable in the long run. Once the right partner does come into Michael’s life, however, he will stick to that partner like glue. When he understands the scarcity of truly compatible people in this world, he will value his lover twice as much.

Michael may find it rather difficult to be spontaneous in his emotional responses, and he may leap to unwarranted negative conclusions. A profitable way to improve his judgment and his ability to enter positive emotional situations is by reflecting on his past experiences. By going over them in detail, Michael will learn to let his mind guide him when his emotional evaluation of a situation fails. It is particularly important that Michael give himself credit for his abilities, so that he will have the confidence to use them with assurance.

Maintaining status in his social affairs is central to Michael’s lifestyle, and his reputation as a lover is important to him. Michael is often able to turn a love relationship to his advantage in other areas, so that he enjoys and profits from the connection. He should just make sure that love is always the primary goal of the relationship. External events may play a large role in shaping Michael’s love life, in the form of unavoidable separations from a desired partner or a new relationship springing up suddenly and unexpectedly. There is little he can do to prevent this, so he should just relax and enjoy what fate provides.

In general Michael prefers a dynamic and future-oriented partner whose energies kindle his own. Michael’s emotions are very intense and finely tuned, and he can usually see into the heart of an affair more quickly than his partner. Michael is likely to have considerable mood swings and changes of heart within a relationship until it has settled for a long period. For that reason, he should find a lover who is more stable than he is.
It would be good for him to have a partner who can handle the bothersome petty details of existence, so that he can then attend to the more meaningful issues in life. Under such circumstances, Michael could transform love into a clear, pure vehicle for personal understanding and revelation, both for himself and for his lover.

At times, Michael may overreact to emotional situations and expend too much psychic energy in coping with a relationship. The basic detriment of this attitude is the drain on his energy, leaving him unable to deal with a really demanding situation. Since Michael’s emotional overreactions tend to run in set patterns, he can get around this difficulty by relying on his partner to let him know when he is going too far. Part of the reason for this over-expenditure of energy may be that Michael feels that nobody understands his message unless he really assaults them with it. He can solve that problem by being very verbally precise.

More than most people, Michael can maintain an even flow of emotional energy. Because of this, he will not burn himself out in the initial excitement of an affair, but will make it last and explore its possibilities more fully. In lovemaking Michael can pace himself in response to his partner's energies without getting out of sync or pushing his partner faster than pleasure dictates. However, Michael is probably happiest with a fairly active lover who encourages him to use up all his available energy without any left over at the end of an experience, for that could be frustrating for him.

As long as Michael has enough outlets for his energies, he will have an active and rewarding love life. Michael has a needling desire to realize his deepest and most out-of-the-way motivations, both sexual and otherwise. For this reason Michael is willing to give up much in a relationship in order to explore the unknown. However, he is advised not to wander into strange territory without carefully finding out about it first, for his tendency to act rashly could lead him into trouble. If he is careful, the rewards will be well worth the risks, and the fulfillment he experiences will be special and unique to him.

Michael takes a while to warm up to lovemaking, but once in gear, he sustains a steady and unfaltering pace that allows plenty of time for full sexual expression. He should give careful consideration to his lover's rhythms and timing so that he does not either wear out or exasperate his partner. Michael’s regular sexual drive needs consistent outlets to keep in balance, so he is best off with a regular partner. Michael is quite frank in his expression of affection, and he needs a partner who does not intellectualize love too much but encourages him to manifest it directly in a manner that they both understand without words.